Have you ever found yourself chattering about nothing?
I have, and I’ve actually told myself, inwardly of course, to ‘shut up!’ When anxious or excited, I’ve sometimes found my mouth has run away with itself and gibberish is flowing out of it. I don’t think I’ve done this for a long time now (although others might have a different take on that). It’s happened occasionally but not often. Mostly (unless overdosed on coffee), I have tended to zip up, go quiet and press mute. Long gone are the days when I’d experience any level of social anxiety, thank goodness, but when I did feel terribly anxious as a young teenager, my personal strategy was just to stand there like a statue. I hoped this would convey the impression that I was a mysterious, even enigmatic, sort of chap, but looking back now, I doubt it.
Nowadays I love a good conversation.
Some people never take the mute button option though. And the more excitable they become, the more random words they spray into the atmosphere, to be picked up by any stray ears that happen to be parked nearby.
Our new hypnotic download ‘Stop nervous talking’ is for the other end of the social anxiety problem. It’s been designed for hypnosisdownloads.com for those who chitter chatter when socially anxious.
Don’t get me wrong, by the way. I like talkative people, people who have something to say. But when talking is a knee jerk reaction to anxiety and nerves then, well, let’s just say that the content suffers a little in transmission!
Calming and slowing down
Many clients (and friends) have told me they chatter nervously and feel like they can’t put the brakes on. Social confidence doesn’t just mean being able to speak calmly and fluently. It also means knowing how to relax with breaks in the conversation. If you desperately feel you have to ‘fill the gaps’, then conversation becomes a huge pressure.
Learning about hypnotic communication was a huge social confidence booster for me, because we use pauses and spaces all the time when using hypnosis. The occasional silence gives a person’s unconscious mind a chance to respond to ideas and suggestions.
I created the hypnotic download session Stop Nervous talking for hynosisdownloads.com with the idea of minimizing nervous chatter for people so they can
Anxiety speeds you up
If someone doesn’t feel confident around other people, they can become anxious. Anxiety basically speeds things up – like heart rate, breathing and running (if you are running from a bear or similar threat). So if you get too anxious when talking to others, your talking may speed up too. In fact, it may be hard to shut up and let the other person get a word in.
Nervous talkers tend to:
Hypnosis is used to calm people right down when they encounter social situations. I’m hoping the new Stop nervous talking download is going to help a lot of people become more confident when talking to others and to calm down that nervous chatter for the good of all.
I think I’ve probably said enough on this subject now…
Mark
