When I was around eighteen I went for a summer job. As I recall, the money was pretty good. I was to be an admin assistant to an accountancy clerk. My job interview lasted around one and half hours. During that time a markedly charisma-free man furnished me with such in depth admin detail about the job that my mind began not so much to wander as sprint in any other direction. I think I realized I had a snowball’s chance in hell of getting that particular job when he suddenly said: ‘DO you mind not tapping your fingers; it’s beginning to get to me!’ In my boredom, I hadn’t even noticed that I was fidgeting, but it had clearly got to him. And not surprisingly. I hadn’t been too keen to get that job, but if I had wanted to be employed there I would have blown my chances partly through fidgeting so much.
So what’s wrong with fidgeting?
Restless tapping, hair flicking, blinking, pencil twiddling, and such like fidgets all give out the signal that we are bored, restless, nervous – or even lying. Too much caffeine, too little exercise, habit, lack of self confidence and nervousness can all cause fidgeting. It’s distracting for others and makes you look as if you have little personal authority or confidence and can’t focus. So it can really get in the way!
In the new hypnosis session for hypnosisdownloads.com Stop fidgeting I have produced a session which, I hope, will help people to stop twitching and moving and shuffling when doing so will give the sort of impression they would rather avoid.
Mark
