Don’t get me wrong. Being nice, considerate and decent to other people is the glue that makes society stick. We need to be caring and considerate, and selfishness is damaging to ourselves as well as others. But (you knew there was a ‘but’ coming) sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind. Overly ‘nice’ parents, for example, can spoil their children rotten. And if you are seen as ‘too nice’ to others then you become a target for every manipulator and opportunist out there.
How can someone be too nice?
Being too nice is a real problem for some. If someone always quashes their own opinions, preferences, irritations and ideas in favor of other peoples’, then they are not being true to themselves. If you always defer to others, then you lose a sense of who you are. ‘People pleasing’ and overdoing it on the niceness front are usually born more out of fear than decency. Fear of rejection. Fear that your opinions are wrong. Fear that they won’t like you if you disagree with them.
No one respects the overly nice person
Of course, too much niceness isn’t much fun for the others anyway. In any relationship, always saying “I don’t mind” can put a real burden on the other person to always have to make the decision for two, and try to guess what you would both enjoy. Being too nice is so often about lack of confidence, or having been trained early on to ‘keep the peace’ and try and please at all costs. If you are too predictable and nice then no one will value your opinion when it’s positive – because it’s always positive.
Being too nice devalues niceness
Currency gets devalued when there is too much of it in circulation. If gold and diamonds were everywhere they would lose all value and be, effectively, worthless. So too with niceness. You really value pleasantness when it comes from someone who isn’t always trying to be pleasant. It’s that much more valuable when it’s not there all the time. The new hypnosis session especially for Hypnosisdownloads.com Stop being too nice addresses the self confidence issues of people who are too nice and seeks to make their niceness valuable again.
Best wishes
Mark
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