Full hypnosis download Be more tolerant

Remember the Biblical injunction ‘Let him who is without sin cast the first stone’? Or Robert Louis Stevenson’s excellent advice: ‘There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it behooves all of us not to talk about the rest of us’? But what does it mean to be more tolerant?

Be more tolerant and de-stress

For one thing, being intolerant of others means you are more likely to bully them. If we cannot, even for a moment, see from someone else’s perspective then we are in danger of assuming that anything they do, think or say is ‘wrong’ if it doesn’t accord with what we think or say. This is a basic definition of a tyrant, and what tyrants do is bully, even if that bullying is done under the guise of ‘putting them right’. Being intolerant of others generally entails being angry, which is not good for the cardiovascular system. So there are self-interested reasons for becoming more tolerant as well as the fact that it makes people more human.

Intolerance and ‘evil’

If we look around us at the world, there is great tolerance for difference but there is also massive intolerance , which is really what is behind much of what we consider ‘evil’ in life and history. It’s simplistic to say: ‘If you are not part of the solution you are part of the problem.’ But if the human race is to make genuine progress towards harmony, we need more tolerance and a greater spirit of connection between people. If people’s faces don’t fit, or they don’t belong to our ‘tribe’, does this mean we should not allow them a perspective? Harsh intolerance of the foibles, differences and even mere existence of others renders the practitioners of intolerance like self-centered children – unable to see past their own limited perspective.

Be more tolerant and learn more

I once asked a successful self-made millionaire to what he attributed his great success. He told me that he had always been able to listen to other people. That to me was very telling. Some people are so intolerant of other ideas that they never even really hear them at all. These are the people who feel they should be on ‘transmit’ but never on ‘receive’ as far as communication is concerned. If we are too quick to write people off as worthless or invalid in some way, then we lock ourselves out from the benefits that may be gained in learning from them. As if you were to miss out on a treasure inside a container because you’ve decided that you don’t like the color or shape of it and so won’t open it.

New hypnosis session Be more tolerant

Hopefully, the Be more tolerant session for hypnosisdownloads.com will help people become more tolerant and therefore less condemning of people around them. Of course, they’ll have to be open and tolerant enough to use the session in the first place ☺

All the best

Mark

 Stop Feeling Trapped Sample [3:02m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download (504)

I work with so many depressed or anxious people who tell me how ‘trapped’ they feel, either by their circumstances (such as jobs, marriages or finances) or even their own minds. One woman recently told me she felt trapped by her past. But what does feeling trapped actually mean?

Feeling trapped: No way out

We feel trapped when we feel helpless (and can’t be helped by anyone else). In nature, if an animal is trapped in the jaws of a larger creature its energy will shut down to conserve resources for a possible later escape attempt if an opportunity arises. When people feel trapped in life, they can experience a similar shut down in energy, making them feel hopeless and depressed. But sometimes the situation may not be so hopeless as it appears. Psychologist Martin Seligman coined the term ‘learned helplessness’ to describe feeling trapped when you are not, in reality, as helpless as you feel.

Stop feeling trapped – the new session

This new hypnosisdownloads.com session ‘Stop feeling trapped’ focuses on two things: changing external circumstances so that freedom from a situation becomes possible, and/or changing inner attitude so one feels and thinks about the situation differently until such time as ‘escape’ becomes possible through changed circumstances.

Sometimes we can only change our attitude. Concentration camp survivor Victor Frankl could only control and determine his own inner life until such time as his outer life changed when he was released from years of captivity. Hopefully, Stop feeling trapped will be of huge benefit for all those people out there who feel trapped by circumstances.

All the best

Mark

 Stop Compulsive Hoarding Sample [3:23m]: Play Now | Play in Popup | Download (243)

I have worked with many compulsive hoarders, and I mean compulsive. One guy I saw in his own home had not been able to see his floor for many years –instead he had a ‘carpet’ of old newspapers, magazines, plastic and paper bags and well – just about anything you care to mention.

Compulsive hoarding is a misdirected attempt to feel safe and secure. People can, literally, hide behind stuff and ‘nest themselves in’. However, most compulsive hoarders really do want to straighten themselves, and their environments, out. Of course, for the inveterate hoarder, throwing anything –even junk – away, or even thinking of doing so, can cause a great deal of anxiety even panic. Hypnosis is a wonderful tool to replace panic with calm. Some compulsive hoarders feel ashamed and embarrassed about hoarding, but hoarding is actually very human.

Compulsive hoarding is natural

The hoarding instinct is a natural part of human nature. We all need to feel safe and secure and save supplies for hard times, but compulsive hoarding takes this so far that the attempted solution becomes the problem. The new hypnosisdownloads.com session Stop compulsive hoarding helps hoarders understand their problem and find the calm and confidence to begin to clearing and throwing out things they really don’t need. A truly liberating experience, as the man with the ‘carpet of stuff’ happily discovered.

All the best

Mark

Full hypnosis download Stop popping zits

It can feel irresistible to squeeze a spot. After all, it’s just sitting there, isn’t it? Just waiting to burst and flood out and leave you with a sense of achievement. We human types love to ‘complete’ things. Whether it’s a task, a painting, a novel or, well, squeezing a spot. Once the said spot is squeezed, the ‘circuit is completed’ and we feel satisfied. Expectation has been fulfilled. But, as with any compulsive or addictive drive, there are always less damaging and more ultimately rewarding ways to get that satisfied feeling than popping a few zits.

Stop popping zits and get your skin back

The problem is that squeezing spots is really unhygienic. Unless you are prepared to disinfect yourself before and after the pimple squeezing operation – and who wants to make such a meal of it (if you’ll forgive the unappetizing metaphor)?.

It may be a little safer to squeeze black heads and white headed spots than red ‘angry’ ones, but you still run the risk of scarring and infection. So the best advice is to avoid squeezing spots altogether. But this is easier said than done of course. Emotion has within it ‘motion’ – physical action. When we feel anxious, stressed or bored, we feel as if we want to do something physical like eat, pace the floor or squeeze spots. These behaviors then become established as habit through repetition.

Hypnosis and the art of stopping popping

Because squeezing spots can push infection and inflammatory chemicals deeper into the skin, making cysts and permanent scars more likely, we have produced the Stop popping zits hypnosis session for hypnosisdownloads.com

Hypnosis is the perfect way to relax and change habits. The Stop popping zits session should make for more hygienic skin habits ☺

All the best

Mark

Full hypnosis download Overcome fear of abandonment

I see loads of people in my clinic suffering fear of abandonment. This fear can make people feel as resourceless and helpless as they did as very small children.

Spoiling relationships

Fear of abandonment is a huge issue for many people. Anxiety caused by relationship insecurity and abandonment issues can cause the sufferer to become too desperate and clingy in relationships, and to be unreasonably jealous, defensive, controlling and/or pessimistic. All these things can destroy the very thing they are meant to protect. So when yet another relationship fails, it may seem as if the fear of abandonment has proved itself fully justified. So fearing something can make that something actually more likely to happen –a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Treading on egg shells

Relationships can feel like a minefield to the abandonment-phobe. They may feel overly responsible for the other person’s feelings, and always want to know what the other person is feeling or doing. They may seek constant reassurance that ‘everything is OK’ and feel they must watch what they say and do all the time, in case one false move brings the whole relationship crashing down – leaving them feeling abandoned yet again. But what drives an overwhelming fear of abandonment?

Abandonment – the unconscious association

Firstly, we all need people, and most of us have felt rejected or ‘left out’ or left alone at some point. But for the person who has a terror of abandonment, this focus becomes all pervading and colours many aspects of their life.

Oversensitivity to fear of abandonment may originate from relationships that had suddenly failed, maybe with the other person walking out unexpectedly, or a series of failed relationships and a feeling of a trail of ‘broken promises’. Or the sufferer may have felt abandoned as a child, through the death or absence (physical or emotional) of a parent.

Whenever we experience anything traumatic, the unconscious mind registers it as ‘highly significant’ (this happens in a part of the brain called the amygdala). In future, your brain will try to keep you safe by becoming highly sensitive to anything at all even remotely like the first trauma (so a shell-shocked war veteran may dive for cover when a car back fires in a safe non-military zone). A loving, caring relationship, or one that seems to have potential, can actually feel threatening because it is associated in the unconscious with pain and threat. Therefore, the person behaves defensively – more focused on protecting themselves from pain rather than seeking reward and feeling optimistic.

Using hypnosis for change

Hypnosis comfortably deals with changing unhelpful patterns. It’s like re-training a dog to be able to bark when it’s needed, but not to bark at everyone (only a real intruder!). Feeling insecure is all very well if our situation is actually an insecure one, but feeling as if we are about to plunge off a cliff when we are safely on level ground is a waste of energy and time.

The new ‘Overcoming fear of abandonment’ session for Hypnosisdownloads.com will, I hope, help many sufferers have better relationships and leave some of their ‘demons’ well and truly behind them.

That’s it for now (but I will be back, rest assured!)

Mark