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Full hypnosis download Stop self pity

Someone I know has advanced motor neuron disease. She can’t talk any more. She writes on a dry white board. When I see her, she asks about me. She jokes, she writes how nice her garden looks, or how wonderful the sunshine is. She puts me to shame. But I also plan to take her lesson – the lesson of her dignity and distinct lack of any self pity – with me into the future. To remember that life is never really just what happens to us but how we respond.

Self pity is a very unattractive trait. We recoil from it when we see it in others. Yet we’ve probably all had moments when we’ve given in to the ‘poor me/cruel world’ syndrome. People who habitually indulge in self pity are more likely, of course, to feel down and de-motivated. Refusing to allow self pity to take over, on the other hand, produces a better mood and means you can actually be productive and exercise true human resourcefulness, whatever your circumstances.

The new hypnosisdownloads.com session Stop self pity aims to inspire and change the self pitying mindset by offering wider perspectives and suggesting inspirational role models. Self pity can become a form of self indulgence, or may have just become a habit, a kind of ‘default setting’ for life. We all need to appreciate that times have been tough for us when they have been tough for us, but after a certain point we just need to get on with living the best way we can.

Mark