Understanding what drives attention seeking
We all need attention. But if we’re not aware of this basic drive, and so fail to take account of it, we can end up mistaking one thing for another. We can confuse our attempt to get what we need (attention) with something else we are doing – for example, trying to learn something. If we are learning something for the sake of the attention it brings rather than to increase our skills or knowledge, we are unlikely to make the most of that learning.

Unless we get our attention needs adequately and appropriately met, this drive can sabotage our activities. And spoil our lives. I know that sounds strong, but I think it’s the truth. Attention seeking isn’t inherently, or always, a ‘bad thing’. It’s only a problem if it:

• gets out of control
• gets in the way of other important things working out well (such as running a business or learning something)

The new Stop attention seeking session is for people who can be honest enough with themselves to admit that having a better way to get their legitimate needs for attention met would give them the spare capacity to become truly more effective – and fulfilled.

One of the most difficult people – the narcissist

And talking of an uncontrolled greed-over-need drive for attention, what do we do with a narcissist? In Greek mythology, Narcissus was a beautiful youth, but narcissists come in all shapes and sizes – and one could be a malign influence in your life right now. They might be the utterly selfish boss who will not listen to anyone else, the boy or girlfriend who can only talk about themselves, the charming sociopath who’s nice to you while you’re useful while it suits and then drops you. The Dealing with the narcissist session firstly helps you to identify narcissistic behaviour and secondly encourages you to build the skills set and confidence to deal with it effectively.

The stay at home mum is more important than she knows

Just as the narcissist often has an inflated sense of their own entitlement, and feels they are uniquely important (way beyond healthy self belief), some people have a kind of ‘Cinderella syndrome’ in which they feel they are drastically less important than they actually are. I’ve heard some women sound apologetic on being asked what they do: “I’m just a mom!” As if this wasn’t vitally important. We all need to take pride in what we do, even if it seems unimportant or menial. And it can be argued that being a parent is the biggest job we can ever do. The hypnosis download Stay at home mum works to help mothers appreciate their own important part in society, and to look after themselves so they can look after others and never say ‘just’ in relation to what they do again.