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Many of my clients have interpersonal problems. They may complain that others don’t seem to take to them, or want to talk to them. Traits like perfectionism tend to produce emotions like anger and depression, which in turn put others off approaching the sufferer socially – or even professionally.

Then again, shyness and lack of self esteem and confidence can also make people appear rude, aloof or ‘stuck up’ – although of course they don’t mean to be any of those things.

Unapproachable types seem hard, unfriendly, cold, and severe. They may have many associates but are considered a real friend by very few. People don’t want to approach them because they look prickly, icy and unfeeling. They don’t make friends and influence people. They are off-putting. The tragedy is that ‘underneath’ they might just be great people with loads to offer. But they just don’t know how to convey this.

To be approachable

Then again, we all know people who are approachable and personally ‘magnetic’. Others are drawn to their company. They are easy to be with. This attraction has little to do with how they look physically, but everything to do with how they ‘come across’; how they use their eyes and smile; the vibes they give out.

There is some great research out on the benefits of smiling and how it can influence those around you positively. UMIST in Manchester discovered the impact of smiling – 72% of the respondents in their research believed that people who smile are more confident and successful.

Which means that, if you want to seem confident, even just smiling will improve your standing among others. In the same research, 86% of the respondents said they would be more likely to strike up a conversation with a stranger who was smiling than with one who was not. On top of that, it was found that bosses were 12% more likely to promote an employee who smiled a lot. So being seen as an approachable type can influence your career progress as well as win you friends.

I wanted to use hypnosis effectively in a download session for hypnosisdownlaods.com to create unconscious blueprints for people to become more approachable to others. It’s something that’s so easy to change, but so difficult to ask for help with.

Human beings are meant to connect together to multiply progress towards goals. If people automatically steer clear of you when they needn’t, it’s a crying shame.

I’m glad to have been able to offer a practical way for people to become more of what they want to be.

Mark