Over the years as a practising hypnotherapist I have worked with literally hundreds of men and women for sexual performance anxiety. Getting anxious around sex is a major relationship blocker for countless people –which is why we produced the Sexual performance anxiety hypnotic download for hypnosisdownloads.com. I’m proud to say that we constantly get great feedback about this session.
Why do so many men see sex as a ‘performance’ and so become sexually anxious?
Sex, stress and performance
Men are taught from an early age to equate sexual prowess with status and masculinity. Of course, fear of sexual failure can actually bring about what is feared. If you are stressing that you will not be able to ‘perform sexually’, the worry itself can switch off sexual arousal. To have sex we need to be aroused, but anxiety arousal can drive out sexual arousal.
A man’s (and a woman’s, of course) sexual response is meant to switch off during anxiety and stress. During human history, if we had been threatened by, say, a lion entering the cave, imagine if we had continued to be sexually aroused while fighting for our lives!. Anxiety switches off sexual desire and capacity, and rightly so. But when the anxiety is inappropriate because there is no actual physical threat (the threat only coming from inside one’s own mind) then sexual performance anxiety becomes a problem.
Sexual performance anxiety and relaxation
The more you feel a certain way within a situation, the more likely you are to feel that way in future. Why? Because the brain learns though association and expectation. The more you feel anxiety before and during sex, the more your mind comes to expect to feel this sexual performance anxiety. This starts to happen in exactly the same way as listening to a certain piece of music, for example, can start to make you feel a certain way – your brain has learned to feel a certain way in response to a given situation through repetition.
The hypnosisdownloads.com session helping lift sexual performance anxiety seeks to quickly change the automatic association, replacing sexual anxiety with calm, relaxation and a sense of excitement, fun and self-control.
It’s really gratifying to know that so many people are getting such great result with the Sexual performance anxiety session.
Mark
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