I used to write this section in our monthly Inspired Minds newsletter, but we figured it would be easier to read online, and all our blog subscribers would enjoy reading it too. At least I hope you do
Read January’s Inspired Minds newsletter here.
Downloads Unwrapped – January 2010
So many people I have met or worked with (and I have to include myself in this, because there was a time when it was me, too) fear speaking up in groups. And our new download speaking in groups focuses in on this very fear and sets out to replace it with confidence and ease.
Speaking in groups can be fun. Really.
Fearful speakers may be fine one to one, but as soon as there’s a ‘meeting’ or a ‘social event’, they feel as if they just can’t give their opinion, or speak up or out. They may actively dread the ‘spotlight’ being turned on them with the terrifying question: “So what do you think?”
Now the reasons for this can be various, and the reasons are not as important as finding the solution (unless understanding the reasons forms part of the solution). Some people have just never learned to speak to more than a couple of people at once, but others have had bad experiences, perhaps when they tried to speak up in the past. This could be a vestige from school days or early family life – if someone, for example, was always shouted down, or ignored, they may have come to ‘feel invisible’ in groups.
Whatever the root of the fear, this session neutralizes negative past experiences and makes good any missing learning so that anyone can feel at ease in a group situation and speak out whenever they need or want.
Being clear about your boundaries is good for you and others
Becoming confident speaking out in groups involves dealing with others, which links to another new session setting boundaries.
Clearly letting other people know what you will do and what you won’t do protects you from:
- feeling unnecessarily resentful
- over-stretching and exhausting yourself
- making promises you can’t keep
Rather than just automatically saying yes (or even no) to people, this session encourages you to stop and really consider your options. It also encourages you to set boundaries with yourself. For example, I might (and I do) set a boundary around my leisure time with an: “Okay, I’ll watch TV for an hour, then I’m going to do some work.” We all need boundaries and demarcations in our lives, interpersonally and when relating to ourselves, and this session will help set up and manage those boundaries.
Hypnosis induction teaches you how to induce hypnosis
Talking of boundaries, sometimes it’s effective to blur them – especially when we are being creative and flexible. When using hypnosis (and being hypnotized) we don’t always need to make a great song and dance about the fact that ‘now I am doing an induction’. We can be hypnotizing someone while just describing the process of hypnosis. This is a more subtle and flexible approach to trance work and forms the basis of the brand new All about hypnosis induction, which very economically explains hypnotic induction to you while actually being a hypnotic induction for you – and at the same time teaching you how to use this later to hypnotize others. We love it when a single tool has multi-functions…



